Sometimes you feel separated from the rest of the world in your grief. it can feel like you are boxed in to your own small world, lost in the emotions of the moment. You may want to stay away from the rest of the world, isolated in your pain, lying low and licking your wounds. Then there are times when you feel the loneliness is overwhelming you and you crave the company of other people.

You have many questions about the shape your life is going to take following your loss. You do not really know what you want as your life is in a state of flux. As well as loneliness there are feelings of vulnerability and insecurity. You know life is never going to be the same, but you cannot work out what this new shape and structure is going to look like. You have been tossed into this change, by losing someone who may have had a hugely significant role to play in your life.

Give yourself time to adjust and come to terms with your loss. Avoid making big decisions unless you really have to. Sit with your new circumstances and allow yourself time to adjust to them before attempting to plan the next steps of your life. if you feel huge pain, try to accept that you are feeling so much pain because you loved and cared deeply for the person you have lost.